My goal for this year is to lose this waist fat

If you’ve read “about the author” you know that my weight peaked at 235 — pretty huge for a 5’10” guy. I lost 50 pounds by restricting calories and walking and I thought I was stuck there, but then my brother turned me on to P90X and I found out I could lose even more fat while also adding muscle.

… HOWEVER …

While I lost 4.5″ off my waist after the first round of P90X, I am stuck at that waist size. I cannot seem to lose these final few pounds of fat.

Fortunately, my chest, shoulders, and back are all much larger, so that diminishes the waist fat, but, really, I’m not happy with that. Getting larger up top so my middle appears to be smaller is not acceptable.

I am at a bit of a loss on how to lose the waist fat. I’ve read all kinds of books on the subject, and I’ve experimented with my body. I am pretty sure that carbs are a primary factor in fat storage, but I also know that I feel like total and utter crap without carbs. Plus, as you may realize, I am not a fitness fanatic. I like my relaxation and I prefer to live my life without obsessing about whether or not I was able to get a workout in or whether or not I can eat exactly perfectly healthy all the time.

So here’s my plan:

PART 1: Eat lower carb (no more than 150 carbs a day), lower fat (not obsessively, just keep an eye on the fat), and high protein (aiming for 50% of calories from protein). When I started P90X, I was on their recommended eating plan, which was 50/30/20 (protein/carbs/fat). I lost fat fast on that diet, but I turned to a primal diet about six weeks into it after reading Mark Sisson’s The Primal Blueprint.

I went totally off grains (no rice, corn, wheat, rye … nothing) for 6 months and increased my fruit intake. The fruit was not necessarily in keeping with Sisson’s ideas — he likes to get most of his carbs from veggies, with only some fruit thrown in — but it’s much easier to eat fruit, which I primarily do with frozen fruit in my protein shakes, than to eat lots of veggies. Plus, okay, I’m not a huge fan of vegetables.

The upshot is that I’m fairly happy with my diet, but it’s not getting me where I want to be. I’m not going to restrict calories — that just doesn’t work for me in the long run — so 50/30/20 (or thereabouts) is where I’m headed.

I also, however, feel that I need to step it up on the exercise side. That leads me to …

PART 2: I’m going to give Insanity a try. I bought it at the end of 2010 with this in mind. I checked out one of the DVDs a few weeks ago, and, whoa, it is tough. Yes, tougher than P90X. But I’m pretty sure it’s what I need, or, anyway, I’m pretty sure there’s no way to be sure without trying it, so I’ll give it a go.

After one round of Insanity — which is a 60-day program — I plan to go back to P90X with other Tony Horton DVDs thrown in to mix it up, keep the muscles confused.

I have to admit that I am a bit concerned about my knees. I have some weakness in my right knee and some arthritis in my left one. I keep the arthritis pain and stiffness away with a low-grain, high-activity lifestyle, so I’m not worried about that, but the right side may prove problematic. Still, one of my favorite sayings is, “There are always good reasons not to do something. Successful people often ignore those reasons.” I could just write off Insanity as impossible with my knees. But. Not. Gonna. Do. It. Is this a no-guts-no-glory attitude? Is it foolish? Perhaps, but I will never know until I try.

I still have another month to go on this current round of P90X, so I’m going to wait to start Insanity until after I’m done with that, but I’m really looking forward to this new challenge. I’ll keep you posted on my progress.

Today kinda got away from me….

I really wanted to get a workout in today, but I work out in the living room, and my wife was in there watching tv, relaxing. That’s cool by me, because she really does put in a lot of hours at work and needs her downtime.

(BTW, I have in the past asked her to leave for an hour while I work out, but today was not the time to do that. Trust me.)

She was headed in to work this afternoon to catch up on paperwork. I’ll work out then.

That didn’t happen. She did go to work, but I had eaten too soon to her leaving, and I needed a cardio workout. For me, that’s two hours to wait after eating, or I’ll hurl, I swear. Oh, well.

No huge deal. I’ll skip it. After all, I justified, I did a hard back and biceps workout yesterday. I could use the rest….

Well, feeling guilty and wanting to move, I could not just sit there, so I ended up upstairs cleaning out our extra room, which I am turning into a workout room. I made sure I went up and down the stairs quickly and often, so at least I was getting in a bit of cardio.

Did I fail? Yeah. I wanted to get a cardio workout in, but I didn’t. Was the day a total fitness failure? Not at all. Plus, I did get a lot of prep done to the workout room that will, hopefully, in the future, prevent the whole thing that led to the failure to begin with.

Yup, I gotta get that thing done. Weekend workouts are hard to get in without it.

Does your significant other sidetrack your fitness goals? (Part 2)

Read part 1.

Okay, so you’ve had that moment, you’ve decided to eat healthy, but your significant other is not on board. That’s fine. Difficult, but fine.

You simply need to eat separate meals. Sorry, but you gotta do it.

Well, not necessarily. You can do it like a friend of mine, and make food for both of you — or all of you, if  you have others in your family — and then you just eat what you can. But that gets old. Fast. For example, if you choose to go low carb, you end up peeling the breading off fried chicken, eating burgers without the buns, having a delicious BLT sandwich — without the bread. You are making do, instead of creating meals that are right for your goals.

You just have to have to get over it, get over the trouble it is, get over the psychological drama that may ensue, and just fix yourself separate meals.

I know, it’s tough. For me, there was a problem with the invisible rift that put between me and my wife. We were dining together, but not really, because I almost always had to have different food than she did. But, you know what? It was only weird for a while. Now it’s normal.

That’s why I say get over it. It’s all psychological. What the heck is wrong with eating what you want to eat, especially if what you want to eat is aimed at creating a healthier you? Sometimes you really need to put yourself first. This is, after all, your life we’re talking about.

Does your significant other sidetrack your fitness goals?

I often have been sidetracked from my fitness goals by my significant other.

It’s not her fault. Honestly, I don’t expect my wife to make every dietary turn with me in my quest for fitness. That’s not fair to her, now, is it? But, too often I give in. The cupcake is there, and I cave in and eat it.

NO MORE!

I am not sure what changed in me. Perhaps it was reading Taubes’s Good Calories, Bad Calories, which convinced me that sugar is a poison. Perhaps it was watching my waist shrink with my new higher protein, lower carb lifestyle. Perhaps it was just because I had reached the end of my rope and knew I wanted to be fit. Whatever the reason, I swear, you could put a chocolate cake with vanilla buttercream frosting right next to me and I would not be tempted even to taste it.

Where are you in your fitness journey? Have you reached a point where you are determined to be fit? Or are you still able to be knocked off track?

I guess it’s kinda like quitting smoking. I tried to quit many times, even quitting for 18 months at one point, only to start back. But the last time I quit, I never again had any temptation to smoke. Right from the first second of that decision. I was done. Hell, I even dated women who smoked, took puffs off their cigarettes (without inhaling), and never restarted.

Breaking ourselves of our laziness and, more importantly, our eating habits, is a lot like breaking ourselves of other addictions. At some point we just say, “Enough is enough!”

How close are you to that point? When you reach it, no one can deter you from it, not even your significant other.

Read part 2.

Have you had your wake up call?

I was fat for a long time and didn’t even know it. How could that be? I’m not sure.

I was always a thin kid, didn’t start really chubbing out until I hit 30 or so. I kept buying larger waist-sized jeans: 34. 36. 38. 40. 42. 44…. 44!!!! That was a mini-wake-up call, but not definitive.

I remember going to a reunion of people I hadn’t seen in 20 years back in 2003. I saw a friend of mine who had gotten much larger and thought to myself, “Wow, Jeff sure got huge.” I didn’t see the photos of that event until many years later on Facebook, and you know what? I was huger than Jeff! But I didn’t realize it at the time.

My true wake-up call came in 2007, when I saw photos of myself on vacation. I was just large, larger than I thought I should be. 5’10”, 235. That’s obese. Plus, I was on two blood-pressure medications, and my insides would hurt for no apparent reason. I guess the fat was probably squishing my organs.

It was then that I woke up. Gotta lose weight.

Have you had your wake-up call? Have you been buying larger and larger jeans, but not thinking, “Hmmm…. Maybe I need to lose a few pounds”? Maybe you are like I was at one point and just figured — and this makes sense if you look around — “Well, I’m getting older and that automatically means getting fatter.”

WAKE UP!